SMILE AND WAVE ACROSS AMERICA!

Today’s lesson in happiness.
Become the observer. In order to understand the changes we want to make in our lives, we first have to understand the things we would like to change about ourselves. Begin by paying attention to your behavior. What do you do that blocks your happiness? For many years, I use to say the words: That wasn’t very good, now was it?” Yea, this was real empowering. When I discovered this one small part of my behavior, it was like a ton of bricks were taken off of my back and I got really excited! I started searching for other bricks that I could remove from my path, so I could get that dump truck off my back (Yes, I have a lot of bricks, HA, HA).
As it turns out the simple act of observing, has become one of my most powerful tools for creating happiness. When I’m observing my thoughts and behavior, I do it from a third party perspective. I get my heart to throw a party and I invite my brain so I can watch it like a hawk! You know how the brain is, if you don’t watch it, you never know what it will do. It picks up bad habits, tells you that you’re not good enough, finds ways to block your progress, and it finds all kinds of things to make you feel like $#@&%&#. You get the idea. If left alone the brain can be your biggest road block. Becoming the observer allows you to keep the brain in check, to take control of your own mind. I know, I know, at first I was nervous too, thank goodness that now, I just weird (LOL).
Observe your body movements also, stay relaxed and calm through your movements. As I scan my body there are a few things that I look for. How do my shoulders feel? Are they tight and high up on my neck or are they relaxed and below my neck? What are my hands doing? Are they always moving, trying to find something to do, like shaking a pencil or fumbling with something. Or maybe my hands are tight, their balled up in a fist or maybe they’re stiff. What about my feet? When I’m sitting are they always moving, like I’m running a one legged race? Do I curl my toes? Am I relaxed when I walk or am walking like I have a strait jacket on? Ok, when you get that picture of me in a strait jacket out of your mind and stop laughing at me, I have one more point.
You are in control of your own life, how do you want to live it? Do you want more happiness, joy, love, compassion, excitement, adventure, romance? Then observe your behavior and begin to make the changes you desire and you will begin to create the life you want to live and one of the side effects is more happiness! Now that my friends is a side effect I can live with.
Until the next time, smile long, laugh hard and be joyful!